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Tantrums – 5 Tips On Avoiding Toddler Outbursts

11.09.2008 · Posted in Home and Garden Articles

This article has tips for nipping toddler tantrums in the bud before they start. Prevention is definitely better than cure!nnKnow Why Outbursts HappennnTantrums happen when a toddler’s desire to do a task is not matched by the reality of the situation. Either he is not yet able to do something (e.g. reach the table for his teddy for example), or he is not allowed to do it (e.g. have another biscuit).nnWhichever reason is behind the screaming fit, it is best to accept it as a normal part of growing up for a young child – armed with this knowledge, see how much calmer you are. In fact, start expecting outbursts to happen (this is different from expecting them to ruin your day).nnPreventative PlanningnnSit down and identify any regular times that your child has behavior problems. Can you avoid them? For instance: shops or stores, eating out and fizzy drinks (these can lead to impulsive behavior). nnDo your shopping on the Internet, eat at home and replace chocolate biscuits with fruit for the moment. Young children are developing all the time and in a couple of months they might be able to cope with these things.nnBe Wary Of Overly Complex Activities nnSo many crying fits can be prevented if you stop and consider: Is this game or toy too hard for my toddler? You wouldn’t expect a gym newbie to run a marathon on their first day. Many skills such as brushing teeth and dressing need a lot of positive support from you. nnAre You Creating Conflict?nnAs adults, we do sometimes create the conditions for an outburst. Take the example of little Alice, happily engrossed in her toys. She is suddenly bundled into her coat and told she must come now – her father had forgotten he has an important letter to post, and they only have 5 minutes to do it. Daddy would do well to offer some treat rather than tell Alice off for wanting to stay home, so avoiding a potential screaming fit.nnOffer a SubstitutennToddlers haven’t yet learnt to cope with the disappointment of not getting their own way. Go easy on them – they have few social skills. Offering a substitute goes a long way to teaching young children to deal with this. nnSuggest a ******* if your child is hungry but the meal will be another 15 minutes.nnPromise your toddler his favourite game when you get home if you have to leave the park. nnPreventing temper tantrums is not always easy or possible, but with a little forward planning and tried-and-tested behavior strategies, you can make them shorter and less frequent.

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