Sex Myths Debunked Ė Shed Unrealistic Expectations for a Better Sex Life

By: J Dugan

A vibrant sex life is important for penis health; frequent use helps keep erections strong as men age. But common misconceptions and unrealistic expectations associated with sex can leave men (along with their female partners) feeling anxious, confused and inadequate. Nothing puts a damper on the mood like mental and emotional stress. Men can, therefore, promote sexual well-being and the health of their relationships by getting the facts straight on common sex myths. Below, six such myths are discussed.

Sex Myths

1) Women like bigger penises.

While a 2013 study by the Australian National University suggested that women preferred slightly larger-than-average flaccid members, several nuances of the study should be taken into account. First, women were turned off by significantly larger-than-average rods; second, their size preference tended to correspond with the manís overall height - most women only preferred larger members on taller men, indicating that proportion more than length was valuable to them aesthetically.

It should also be noted that flaccid penis length is not a good indicator of the size of the member when erect. Some women may prefer the look of a longer flaccid penis, but this doesnít necessarily mean they want larger-than-normal erect members inside them. Average erection length ranges from 5.5 to 6.3 inches; most men are within or very close to this range, and those who fall below it can still provide plenty of pleasure.

2) Most men have had dozens of sexual partners.

Men in this culture are encouraged to treat sexual activity as a sign of masculinity, and this often leads to comparing oneself with other men in terms of partner count. For one, itís likely that most men havenít had anywhere close to dozens of partners. A 2005 study of men ages 30-44 yielded an average of 6-8 partners. Secondly, sex isnít a sign of masculinity; itís an experience between two (and sometimes more) human beings. Comparisons result from a societal pressure that makes sex into a competition and a source of stress rather than the enjoyable, intimate experience it can be. As with most things, quality beats quantity here.

3) Everyoneís having anal.

No, theyíre not. According to research from 2005, less than half of respondents (40% of men and 35% of women) report having heterosexual anal intercourse. Itís not something everyone wants, and it shouldnít be expected.

4) Men should last at least an hour.

This is perhaps one of the most over-stated sex myths out there, and it leads to both men and women expecting constant marathon sessions that arenít very realistic. Most men cum after three to seven minutes of continual thrusting. Granted, sex can be extended by techniques such as pausing, switching positions, changing to oral for a while - but the idea that a man should be able to pump continuously for an hour (or even half an hour, let alone 15 minutes) is a misconception that can leave men feeling self-conscious.

5) A man should be able to make a woman orgasm vaginally.

Some men may put pressure on themselves to bring their female partners to orgasm with their penises alone, but this isnít likely to happen for most women. In her book, The Case of the Female Orgasm, Elizabeth Lloyd analyzed 33 studies and concluded that about 25% of women achieve orgasm through vaginal sex. This percentage has no correlation with the manís penis size, the duration of the activity or the womanís feelings toward her partner.

That is to say, a man is not inadequate if his partner doesnít reach climax by the sheer power of his penis. Clitoral stimulation is required by most women. If a man wants to get his partner there, then, some extra hand and mouth play is his best bet. He can also massage her clit with his penis if he (and, of course, she) really wants the member involved.

The only thing worse for a manís sex life than unrealistic expectations and anxiety is, perhaps, a poor penis care regimen. Men with dry, cracked penile skin have a legitimate concern, since skin abrasions make men more susceptible to a variety of infections and odors that no partner would want to be close to. Men whose sensitive skin needs a bit of extra help can seek assistance from a penis health crŤme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). A cream with Shea butter and vitamin E will smooth the skin out; also look for vitamin A on the ingredient list, which helps the body fight off bacteria that can cause both infections and odors.

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For additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity, and what to do to maintain a healthy male organ, visit John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.

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