Online kinky dating for kinksters

By: Mathew Johnson


There are some good BDSM dating sites out there for sure. That being said, there are still some characters out there running around, and while this might prove entertaining for you in your search for the perfect partner, itís also important that you know how to avoid the people that are less funny, and more unsafe.

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You need to know how to recognize the harmless ones.
The moment you pop onto any legit BDSM dating site, youíre going to see some interesting folks. Youíll get the Doms that want to speak like theyíre a vampire out of an old black and white gothic film, and the subs that fall over themselves the moment you sign on, desperate for an order that gets them off right then and there.

These people are usually harmless. They might seem a little ridiculous and make you roll your eyes, but really, what is a sub that paws at you for a little attention over the Internet going to do to you? Itís all in recognizing what exactly can be seen as harmful, and you usually can tell within the first conversation you have with anyone on any of the sites.

There are certain signs that will label a person dangerous.
Online safety is key in any dating community, and this especially applies to BDSM because of the level of trust that is expected between both parties. Itís important for you to be able to tell right off the bat which kind of people you should avoid on a dating website, because itís not only your safety that is at stake here Ė it might also be theirs.

If youíre a Dom search for a sub, then the kind of sub that you need to avoid is the classic doormat. Itís unfortunately, but many of the subs that you will see online have little to no self-respect, and thatís why theyíve desperately turned to sending out mass messages to every Dom they come across. Be suspicious if you receive an e-mail from a sub that barely seems to pay attention to any of your profile, and instead immediately begs for orders to execute. This kind of person does not know her own limits, and is extremely dangerous to play with. Because they donít know their own limits, they will be very easy to take advantage of, and end up hurt in the process of your scenes. Tread cautiously when it comes to this kind of sub for sure.

The same theory applies to abusive Dominants.
Subs are not the only worrisome persons that you need to keep an eye out when it comes to the online dating community. Unfortunately, many Doms whose activities will verge on the abusive turn to online communities when they are shunned from their in-person communities. These Doms might try and hide their tendencies, but it will become increasingly clear with the abusive language that they use that they care very little for their sub.

These kinds of Dominants might display a dislike or distaste for RACK and SSC, as well as the use of safe words in general. We canít stress it enough: run, donít walk, from these kinds of people. There are many, many caring, well-informed Dominants out there that are worth your time. These kinds of people are most definitely not.

You need to come off as sane, too.
Itís important that when you start delving into the online kinky dating community that you come across as the kind of person that you would like to have in a partner. This means speaking to any potential partners in a sane, knowledgeable manner Ė just as you would any normal human being on the street. If you donít do this, you arenít going to be taken seriously. We certainly wouldnít want a sub that immediately greets us by informing us that theyíre trash!

If you find someone that you want to be with, then itís important to discuss the scenes that the two of you want to play before you actually meet up in person. As always, we suggest you meet first in a public place, and avoid taking one another home on the first meeting. Hotels are the safest bet, as well as meeting up at specific bars for your playtime. Safety is key, and if you find the right partner, they will be just as obsessed with it as you are.

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