In todays fast pace society half of the marriages will fail even in the Christian community. Unfortunately it is becoming the norm to get a divorce instead of working things out. However there are those that are looking for ways to work things out instead of divorce because it is the right thing to do. It may not be easy but through compromise there are ways to save the marriage.
Honesty and speaking openly are the first steps to avoid a divorce. Say why you think the marriage is headed in the wrong way and then agree on ways you are willing to change in order to avoid conflict. Your life together and life as a married couple in the future depend on what you do now.
Address the issues that you feel are running your marriage. Communication is a huge step to take in order to save your marriage. By being open with one another you are able to air out the problems and understand what is wrong in the marriage. Listen closely to your partnerís point of view and really understand their point of view. If you truly understand and are willing to change, you are almost there.
It may be easy to share the thoughts and the information that is inside of your head, but for some people, it is not so easy to share the depth of the feelings that reside in your heart. Give your spouse the chance to understand you and how things affect you before you through in the towel at the point of no return. It is not uncommon for a marriage to fall apart and one spouse is at a loss and does not even know why.
Many times what is needed is a referee so look for a good Christian counselor. It could be very beneficial to have a third party listen to what each of you has to say. It is better to resolve issues than to win an argument, trying to make things better is always the best. Going to a counselor is a way to gain tools to resolve issues so donít think they are going to be on your side and understand what you are going through. Going to a marriage counselor is a healthy manner to resolve issues and there is nothing wrong in going to a professional counselor and in my opinion a Christian counselor is best. The sooner you go the better to improve communications and find the tools to strengthen the marriage for many years to come.
The harder thing to actually go through would be a divorce. If you feel that you and your spouse are making a huge mistake in fighting and letting your differences and issues get in the way of your life together, then it is not too late to try these simple steps to improve your relationship right now. The commitment you made to one another to spend the rest of your life together is just as valid today as then. This would also be a good time to make another commitment now; to listen to your spouse understand their feelings and change the things you are doing wrong in order to breathe life back into the marriage. Do not go to counseling expecting the other person to change but expect to learn what changes you need to make to have a more harmonious marriage.