Does Motherís Denied Guilt Lead to Eating Disorders?

By: Kathleen Fuller, Ph.D.

Can Motherís Obsessive/Compulsive Behavior Add Body Fat or Cause Weight Loss?

In this story of Sally, what obsessive/compulsive behaviors might lead to the following eating disorders of extreme weight loss or bingeing with added body fat? Sally is a grandmother who lives in a retirement home. Sheís found sneaking her favorite meal of whip cream smothered over chocolate ice cream. Her diet habits from childhood are still wreaking havoc on her life decades later. Sallyís mother had obsessive/compulsive behaviors. How might this acting out by eating sweets be driven by denied guilt? Maybe the answers can be found in the following story.

1. An adult child is in the grip of guilt that eats away at her core. She obsesses about food constantly. Sheís in the trash finding the crumbed cookies she just bought and threw away hoping she could stop eating them. She canít stop this eating disordered behavior.

2. The adult daughter is now a mother of two daughters, six and eight years old. She tells them both how bad ice cream and refined sugar is for them. She does everything from making homemade birthday cakes with fruit as sweetening to never once going to McDonalds. This mother is afraid her daughters will put on too much body fat. Yet this mother is repeating the denied guilt cycle of obsessive/compulsive behaviors towards sugar laden and fattening foods down to the last crumb of a cookie.

What do you think happens when her daughters visit a friendís house where there are cookies and candy? Or what do you think happens when her daughters reach their teens with money in their pockets and theyíre out with peers? One of two things can happen to these daughters.

1. They may still restrict their food because of guilt like their mother and develop an eating disorder with extreme weight loss.
2. They may overeat and become out of control with their food intake and add body fat along with an eating disorder.

Either one is devastating to a daughterís mind/body/and spirit. The vicious eating and obsessive/compulsive behaviors cause generational extremes of behaviors such as the all or nothing swinging from out of control eating to the other end of restricting eating choices. These behaviors are termed eating disorders.

Whatís unique about Dr. Fullerís approach is that taking an objective view of the effects that a motherís beliefs about food can have on her children and the generations to come. When you understand the cause you can begin to search for the answers to change.
Go ahead and review the following list of behaviors to determine where you might be. Then look at where you want to be and the steps to get there.

Where might you be on the Obsessive/Compulsive Behavior Eating List?

Note Where You Are:

1. Do you have occasional binges?
2. Do you do constant snacking?
3. Is there an increase in your food quantity?
4. Do you have onset scattered thinking?
5. Do you have an increasing dependence on food as entertainment?
6. Do you do sneak eating?
7. Do you have feelings of guilt?
8. Are you unable to discuss the problem?
9. Have your memory lapses increased?
10. Do you use excuses to cover eating excesses?
11. Do you have decreased ability to diet for any length of time?
12. Do you have persistent remorse?
13. Do you have grandiose & aggressive behavior?
14. Do you experience loss of other interest?
15. Do your efforts to control fail repeatedly?
Critical Phase

16. Do you have work & money problems?
17. Have you attempted geographical escapes?
18. Do you have round the clock eating?
19. Isolation begins here.
20. Physical deterioration happens here.
21. Resentments, compound loss of ordinary willpower in this phase.
22. Sexuality issues arise here.
23. Decrease in ability to satisfy ďhungerĒ
24. Non-Personhood feelings begin
25. Onset of lengthy bingeing begins
26. Garbage eating happens here.
27. Impaired thinking occurs
Chronic Phase

28. Here you are unable to initiate action.
29. Indefinable fears happen here.
30. Vague spiritual fears & questions occur.
31. Obsession with food increases.
32. Sexual dysfunction begins.
33. All dieting ideas are exhausted.
Obsessive/ Compulsive Behavior Continues in Vicious Circles

34. Come to complete defeat and admit it.
35. Honest desire for help happens.
36. Learns food addiction is a treatable illness.
37. Learns how addiction can be arrested.
Intervention Phase

38. Volume eating stops.
39. Meets former food addicts who are normal and happy.
40. Isolation ends.
41. Right thinking begins as sugar and flour abstinence takes hold
42. Spiritual needs questioned
43. Physical overhaul by doctor
44. Personal appearance changes
45. Start group therapy
46. Appreciation of possibilities of new way of life
47. Diminishing fears & anxieties
48. Return to self acceptance
49. Food becomes nourishment for the body
50. Desire to run away ceases
Restoration Phase

51. Realistic thinking begins.
52. Adjustment to family needs happens.
53. Natural rest & sleep begins.
54. New personal interests develop.
55. Family & friends see efforts to recover.
56. Rebirth of idealism
57. Finds a new circle of non-bingeing friends.
58. Begins applying real values.
59. Personal fact-finding begins.
60. Program of recovery is obvious in work place.
61. Experiences increase in emotional control.
62. Return of healthy sexuality happens.
63. Onset of new hope is realized.
64. Rationalizations end
65. Contentment in abstinence happens.
66. Group therapy and mutual help continue
67. Increasing tolerance of others is lived.
68. Self-Actuating future & new means of life begin.

Noting where you are in the above obsessive/compulsive behavior eating list can be a start. Then notice if you have repeated cycling of the behaviors listed. Most women and men will cycle over and over with the intensity of guilt and self loathing increasing to eventually paralyze them into a habit of irrational thinking and victimhood, while being lost in an eating disorder with extreme weight loss or out of control eating that adds body fat. Dr. Fullerís work can help you take the steps to change and free yourself from guilt and this vicious obsessive/compulsive behavior eating cycle.

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